Entries by Jane Carstens

Are you Interviewing or Dating?

Everyone who has used a dating app or website knows that you can get incredibly exhausted of scrolling through profiles and sending messages. And it takes even more time to investigate and VERIFY  that someone isn’t exaggerating or just flat out lying. If you are a discerning dater, why waste your time? On the other […]

Aren’t you supposed to learn to like my Quirks?

  Apparently not. Most of the singles I meet have had their fair share of down-and-out dating moments.  Dates that end with a follow up text detailing all of your first date faux pas, the list goes on (and on).  So , I have a lot of empathy for all you dating warriors, who keep […]

Dating; Our Best is All We Can Do

  I’ve been pondering the comments and conversations I’ve had from my last weeks blog about the changes in dating habits– so many equally different reactions. For me, I’ve been watching the full range of feedback of things that singles say and the ways they show up – or don’t, on a date for over […]

“She’s the right person, the trade offs are worth it!”

Just because you fall in love with someone doesn’t necessarily mean they’re a great partner all around. Sometimes one has a clear and realistic understanding of love.  One might not.  One might idealize love as the solution to all of their problems.  One might not. In today’s culture, many of us idealize love and see […]

The Difference a Matchmaker can Make!

    “We had a great drink date. She is everything you said she was.  I’m cautiously optimistic, but it was probably one of the best dates that I have ever had” Outsourcing your love life and dating with intention is becoming more and more mainstream especially as we enter into 2023 on the right […]

Santa-Dating Game

  It’s known to be the perfect stocking stuffer to gift this holiday season.  A bushy beard, twinkly eyes and a belly that shakes like a bowl of jelly, starring the hunkydory sleigh-rider. Not one but six Santa’s that are all very attracted to you. Which kind of Santa’s could you end up with? Well, […]

Take Me Home for the Holidays

  If you have been dating someone new for a while now, and your relationship is getting serious as the holidays approach–so you ask–they agree–you suddenly PANIC! Meeting the parents is a nerve-wracking experience for everyone, but it also means your relationship is going great!  While you are thrilled to be in love and share […]

How to Define your Relationship

      For some people, using the “boyfriend and girlfriend” titles is a big deal. It can be a significant step in where the relationship is going. Many couples see this a sign of commitment – or at least that they intend to have a long-term relationship. Some people choose to use the term […]

Unsolicited Dating Advice

A lot of singles have difficulty navigating their own conflicting views of dating. And there is this age-old dilemma for our friends/family who have life experiences, know us, and want to use it to help us from making mistakes.  But guess again, most singles see the interventions as intrusive and crossing a boundary usually creating […]

What do you Vet in the Dating Process?

  Too many people see dating as an endgame, in which they must score their goal of finding a partner as fast as possible and getting frustrated in the process. Have the self-confidence to listen and learn while also having companionship, recreation, and entertainment. Going to dinner, a movie, or even for a walk with […]