,

Spring, and LOVE, is just around the corner.

While you still might be tempted to have more “Netflix and Chill” nights, as the temperatures rises, endorphins spark as the sun comes out; so, does your desire for a relationship.  There is something about the days getting a little longer brings us all out of the woodworks and we are seeing a surge in singles wanting to put themselves out there to meet someone,

As spring falls upon us there are still do’s and don’ts when it comes to meeting the right kind of match, based on what you’re looking for and here are a couple of steps you can follow to meet your Spring Love;

DO lose your “laundry list”; This doesn’t mean go out with anyone who asks, but your perfect partner is never 100 percent of what you think is perfect for you that you’ve put on a piece of paper. Date smart, but date with a balance of openness.

DON’T TMI; As relaxed as you are with this great first date, trust me that he’d rather not hear about your alcoholic mother who has a bad habit of continuing asking you for money. As interesting as you think he finds it, it’s because he wants to get to know as much as possible since this is probably the last time he will see you.

DO keep it simple, stupid; Stop trying to complicate things that are not. Relax, stop overanalyzing and putting unfounded pressure on your first few dates. You’re not getting married, you are on your second date.

DON’T try too hard; Put your best foot forward, work on yourself, but remain humbly confident. Don’t ever try to be something you are not in order to try to make someone like you. No one’s perfect. Be your best YOU that you can be, and you will find that right person who loves you for you, flaws and all.

After reading these DOs and DON’Ts are you be ready to meet your Spring Love?

 Contact me jane@matchmakerforhire.com

 

“hope springs eternal meaning, definition, what is hope springs eternal: said when you continue to hope that something will happen, although it seems unlikely.”

 

She’s Miles from ORDINARY!

There’s something about her that is is self assured, unpredictability exciting and you will want to meet her.  If you are 60+ Gent, living in Victoria and have a curious mind and lots of gusto contact me — jane@matchmakerforhire.com or call 778-552-3350

 

With Einstein as Cupid what could possibly go wrong?

Testimonial: “You sure know me. I can only imagine the demands in matching algorithms…… You must be the Einstein of Love.” He said smiling. That’s what one of our clients recently had to say.

Is there a formula for successful relationships?  You bet! The five-to-one ratio of positive-to-negative emotions suggests there is and the difference in having found “the one” as apposed to “someone” can be:

  • You are so enamored at the beginning that you want to keep conversing forever
  • You find someone who meets 90% of your criteria (having defined this well up front and relating to what you have in common rather than having more positive “opposite” traits).
  • There is a magnetism after the first couple of dates…. coming from both head and heart and not merely lust, though the physical attraction is also there.

Once established well over months where it keeps existing—this magnetism blossoms to where you can’t live without the other person.  Resist the desire for any next steps until 4 seasons have gone by, and you have experienced visitations with her/his friends and family, seen his/her reactions to a large variety of events such as changes in political climate, religious experiences, movies and intellectual pursuits, passions of many kinds, discussions on health, patterns of living, rural or urban style, future plans, desire for travel, views on children, volunteering, helping others—all topics you can bring up…and many more that give a broader perspective about the person. Satisfy your need to know these things to avoid big future controversies.

 

Matchmaker vs. Cupid: Which one do you choose when it comes to finding love?  Would you rather get a visit from the messenger of love or a Matchmaker superhero who can save you from a dating disaster?  

HAPPY VALENTINES DAY!

 

Going to a sporting event on a FIRST DATE, Yay or Nay?

If she is a fan of the team, I don’t see why not – however normally I’d see it as a bad move, but all depends on how comfortable she is with it and if she’s excited to go then ……it’s a good move!

With FIRST DATES, there should be 3 components to it.  You need to take some time and create a plan.

Dinner –not a good first date plan.  If you decide 15 min in you have zero in common you are stuck for an hour or more and you’ve giving a message that you have carved the whole evening for someone, you hardly know.  Its like having 2/3 of the date all upfront.  So guys, here we go!

  • The first 1/3, quick easy drink in a bar,
  • and next 1/3 do something fun that is easy and risk free, and it also shows that she thinks that you’ve earned it. (if you are finding conversation awkward at a sporting event, trust me, it wouldn’t be any better at a dinner)
  • and last 1/3, this is reserved for dinner. It makes it easier to have known each other previously and are already comfortable around each other and you’ll always have a bailout conversation topic, because you can just revisit and talk about whatever you did on the first and second dates.

Even if she’s not a big sports fan, she’s sure to enjoy a laid-back evening or afternoon at a minor league ball game.  Amateur teams tend to have more entertainment during the game, which will provide you with tons of conversation starters.  Plus, the drinks and food won’t cost and arm and a leg which is especially good news if things don’t pan out.

 

Thanks to Steve Darling and the Vancouver SportsNet 650 morning team for having me on the air today!

 

 

Option Dating – Stacking Probabilities

Success in dating, much like “Day Trading”, really boils down to two things; what’s going on inside your head and what’s happening with your results.  The key is to get the two in-sync with one another– rather than on the collision course to the calamity you may have it on right now. This basically means having “things come together to a point” which means stacking the odds in your favour……. yes, even in dating.

Ready? ……Let’s Go!

As a Professional Matchmaker for the last 16 years, I always need to see a high-probability element and at that point it’s a definite reason to make a match.   The more supporting aspects or commonalities clients have, the more likely I am to recommend they meet.  Here’s a quick checklist of some factors of dating you can look at to increase the chances for success in dating for you;

  1. Put a game plan together – A dating plan will glue together everything and help hold your “rational” state together.
  2. Accept Reality – Don’t fight it – One huge thing daters forget is there is always tomorrow, don’t feel rushed or pressured to need to date. The more relaxed the better you will do.
  3. Serious Dating cannot be your Plan A, right out the gate! – You need to be as stress-free as possible and if you feel like you have “minimal options” when you’re ready to meet someone, you’re going to become emotional and over-think/over-compromise and ultimately lose.
  4. Remove Expectations – Just because you have a type doesn’t mean that’s what you need! Don’t try to make every date a serious adventure. Instead accept every date as a cost of finding love in this dating market.
  5. Become a MinimalistBeing relaxed, patient and disciplined are all things that are much easier to achieve if you take a minimalistic approach to dating. This means, you don’t need to analyze, to don’t need to look at time frames, and you don’t need to stay up all night watching winks and smiles from your online profile. Set and forget and you will create the proper dating mental state simply as a side effect!

Conclusion…to those on the outside, finding the one is not the result of getting lucky.  Rather, it’s the end result of putting everything together.  Like most things in life, it is the end result of doing a lot of little things right, consistently and it only takes one slip-up of your discipline to start an emotional snowball of dating mistakes.

 

Safe-guard yourself.  Develop these dating habits or learn a no fluff, no filler, just an honest effective better chance at successful dating right from the source! ……….. CALL ME!

 

How can it be the New Year already?

Many singles say they’re in the same boat; anxious, overwhelmed with wide-eyes, hoping for the best and just days away from a new set of resolutions to find love in 2018!  If you’re single and want to get into a relationship in the coming year, you can’t expect to do the same things over and over again expecting different results.  So, if you were unhappy in romance last year, I’ve absolutely got you covered with these great steps to say goodbye to a lonely 2017 and have a happy 2018!

Embrace being Single; Not in the sense of accepting it, but by living your life happily as a single person. The irony is that when you embrace the single life in this way, you become much more attractive to others. A fun, confident person living his or her life to the fullest is very attractive. Be that person!

Get a Life; Meaning an active social life. Besides, attraction involves lots of biological functions, which doesn’t always translate well to photos and bios online. If your social network is limited, then check out activities that you’ll enjoy and meet other people. So, if you like running, do a running event. If you’re into board games, find something related to that.

Give Chances; Give people you normally wouldn’t a chance. Now, I’m not saying to settle (see next resolution). But, I am talking about this scenario: you meet someone cool and you feel attraction. You get to know him or her and you click. But, since that person “isn’t your type” or is too old, young, short, tall, poor, rich, or anything else you’ve set in your head as an artificial boundary, you are tempted to stop the budding relationship. Too many people miss the silver lining because they’re expecting gold.

Don’t Settle; While you should always keep an open mind to good people you find attractive (see previous resolution), you don’t want to go the other route where you settle with someone simply because you’re lonely or feel pressure to “settle down.”

 

Ahhh New Year’s Resolutions. They’re a great opportunity to really set ourselves up for some magnificent failures and  remarkable victories in finding LOVE…………amirite?

Are you Single again just in time for Christmas?

Thanks to Mariah Carey and uncomfortable relatives around the festive table to have a lover at Christmas, it is the most popular time of year for singles to go searching for that special someone. Sleigh bells are ring ting tingling and for singles its time to pull out your best lines and get out there.

Now if you cave in to the cries of the dating massive, true love probably isn’t in the cards.  Matchmaking ensures you’re only exposed to like minds and people who meet your criteria. You don’t want to waste your time with someone who’s not even verified, do you? Think of how much better it will be if both you and your partner come recommended; verification that you are both important and deserving of love.

There’s plenty to celebrate about good relationships, but in a world where being single makes you feel like an oddity its time to change the focus.  Make this year the year there will be NO moping about your marital status, NO joining the festive Christmas-y stampede in the bedroom, just make the most of your alone time while it lasts.  Our clients say; once they found The One, there’s no going back to the luxury of being completely selfish, so enjoy some rum spiked noggy for the duration of the holidays.

A Partner isn’t just for Christmas – it’s for LIFE.

 

 

Awkward Sex Talk and Dating – Brace yourself, this is uncomfortable!

It’s always exciting to start a new relationship, but we often forget about the ridiculously awkward parts that accompany that just-started-dating period. So, if you recently started seeing someone new, you might want to prepare yourself for these uncomfortable moments that you’re bound to encounter and it just might be on the first date. But hey, love is worth it, right?

Let’s be honest, first dates, while exciting can also be downright terrifying.  We either freeze under pressure, awkward silences abound or worse, its full of sexual tension with flirtatious exchanges. You should however use this time together to playfully grill each other — while, you know, throwing in some flirting for good measure. Like that scene in (movie you’ve both seen) where you end with “did you ever do things like that?” Risqué questions wrapped in an anecdote wrapped in a flirt.  Makes for fun conversation fodder and a way to get to know someone beyond dinner.  Of course, if you are ever in a moment where the talk seems weird, gross and very uncomfortable, whether knowingly or unintentionally, let me be very clear, there is no excuse for this kind of behavior and make it clear right away you are no longer interested.

Our motto is “always be prepared” and remember that uncomfortable feelings and difficult experience are all part of dating.

 

#whenharrymetsally

#Illhavewhatsheshaving

 

She’s Perfect, Anyway…..

If you are a single gent 60+with goals for your self and want to be with a woman who has goals for her own life too , contact us to hear more!  jane@matchmakerforhire.com   

Fees paid for by this client.

 

 

You see them. You know ….. that COUPLE!

 

The couple that’s together and you don’t recall a time of them being on their own.  That couple whose personalities are either too similar to too different.  That couple that, from the outside looking in don’t look like they might fit but they just do.

In order to say two people as a couple, are perfect for each other, we have put together a few phrases we have heard over the years to express they are a perfect match to each other.

  • A couple that “has good chemistry” gets along really well.
  • A “compatible” couple fit together really well.
  • A “power couple” are a couple that together, can do anything.
  • A “cute” couple look good together.
  • A couple that is “equally attractive” have a similar level of attraction. (Both members are attractive, or unattractive, etc.)
  • A “good-looking” couple implies that the members of the couple are both independently attractive. (Hot, Sexy, Attractive all same meaning!)

 

IF you or someone you know is a Gent in his 60’s or 70’s, living in Canada or the US with goals for yourself and want to be with a woman who has goals for her own life too, then read on……and contact me at jane@matchmakerforhire.com