4 Things You Need to Remember Before a First Date

As a matchmaker, I can’t guarantee love, but I can help you get a first date.  Over the last 20 years I’ve set up a lot of first dates, so I get it, and I’ve been there for my clients when they get nervous. Its super relatable and it shows that you care about yourself, the other person, and the outcome. Good for you.  So, take a few deep breaths and give yourself a self-talk before the date and remind yourself of these four things and let them calm those anxious butterflies right down.

  1. It’s just a date. You came into this date as just your brilliant self, and it’s ok to walk out by yourself. Its ok to pay your own bill and go home if you’re not feeling it- it leaves space for that right person.
  2. Make a list. It’s always good to know a bit about your date and write down some go-to conversation starters, because writing stuff down actually helps us remember things better just in case you have a brain fart staring into someone’s gorgeous eyes. It happens.
  3. Don’t be a Buzzkill. Don’t talk about your past personal information, or anything depressing. Essentially its a first date, NOT A CONFESSIONAL—and it should be about connection, having fun and maybe a little romance.
  4. Get out of your head. If you can relax and be present your date game is going to level up exponentially.  When in doubt, try not to think about it so much as a “date.”

 

And finally, try to remember- the goal of a first date is simple; try to put a second date on the calendar to continue the conversation.

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Do you have plans for New Year’s?

 

So here we are the beginning of November. Over the last 20 years that I have been matchmaking,  I don’t know of another four weeks when singles lurch forward into new states of mind quite so dramatically and we are busy.

Hoping to see physical manifestations of our hearts desires feels more urgent on these longer November evenings, and before we shift inevitably into the next year, and if your single you get feelings to find somebody to love.  Consider where we were last year at this time.  Vaccine trials, hospitals overwhelmed, borders still closed, November has always been a month of high emotion, whether it’s longing, loss, or memories of closeness.

But come on. Everyone, at one point in their lives needs encouragement along the way and you are no different; without fail our clients hold on to that believing. They let US focus on it and they are enthusiastic to accept meeting potential local love possibilities.

Though patience is a virtue, there is a limit to everyone’s patience. Where are you ?

Happy New Year…this is the year of ….?

 

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I Want You to Meet Someone

It’s an everyday occurrence that we come across a great Single that’s too good not to share!

You might be thinking…. dating ?!?!?  Yet you have likely recognized in your clearest moments that there is a greater possibility for finding love, despite your best efforts. And, like so many of the singles I speak to simply struggle with trying to solve it on their own with no results. But don’t worry.  There is no secret, we only introduce you to great people and we do it everyday for our clients.

This is where this great client living in Victoria BC, comes in.  We have been working with her hand-in-hand and know she is truly a gem.  She is a slim, blue-eyed blonde with a combination of good looks, enthusiasm, and is truly an amazing woman. She exudes a fun demeanor and romantic playfulness; is a wine-lover, foodie, loves live music, handholding and living a balanced, relaxed, healthy life. Her workout clothes are next to her little black dress, and her boots are next to her heels and retired early she makes her home in both Alberta with more time living in Victoria.  She’s a history buff, sees personal investment management as a hobby, and is a strong believer in giving back to her communities.

If you are an active, fit, 60+ gent with an easy laid-back vibe who is more about spending time together enjoying the variety of what a VICTORIA  lifestyle has to offer, sharing adventure, travel, and lively conversations; we can’t imagine your life without her in it.

Contact me here:  [email protected]

Don’t worry; there are no fees

 

As seen in The Times Colonist , Victoria BC ,  Saturday October 2, 2021

 

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Why Dating has always been (very) Political

 

Forget masks, social distancing, or being vaccinated the real issue stopping you meeting the love of your life might just be your politics.

Reporting from the dating frontline, we can attest the politicization of dating is real , especially during an election.  And, according to the clients we work with 50% believe its important to stay informed about politics and that they could not date someone who has strong political opinions that are the opposite of theirs. Good to know!

If politicization means dating results in meaningful moments between people with actual feelings, personal I’m all for it.  However, getting to know someone on a first date should be fun and light-hearted involving banter and flirting and you can learn a lot about someone that doesn’t involve their political identity.

Are you looking for the love of your life and what do you think ?

 

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Want to break out of the “HINGE” game?

Whether you’ve been online dating for what feels like forever or are totally new to the search for love, or a date online, there’s no denying “swipe apps” start to feel like a game.

I personally hear from my clients everyday that they don’t like it and its more frustrating than not. Want to break that logic?

We’ve gathered and broken down some of the best matchmaking practices around so you can get back to the dating life and we’ve answered some of your most commonly asked questions to help you find The One with the qualities and values that matter to you most.

You can choose what type of person you’d like to meet.  This allows us to truly tailor our services on an individual basis and filter matches so that you can get started exploring profiles that you can accept or decline to meet,  straight away.  We set up the first date—it’s that simple.

I’m so grateful for a 20-year career that I look forward to each day and clients that give me the drive to constantly exceed their expectations.

Your Love Warrior, Jane xoxo

Contact me [email protected]

 

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Help for Empty Nesting and Dating

I have seen over this last month with the singles I speak to, it can be quite difficult as a parent to adjust to a new home and family dynamic after the kids have moved out or on to university living. They have shared feelings of loneliness and restlessness and it’s important to realize that along with this big change come many possibilities, especially if you are SINGLE.  Rather than an end, this time in your life can be a wonderful new beginning.

It isn’t a bad thing; simply put its time for you to spread your wings.

Connecting with others who are looking for love in the same situation and those you may not have had time for in recent years.  You can start with brushing up on your dating skills, get some new photos, create a great bio and put yourself out there to meeting others for fun, friendship, or romance interests that’s totally new to you.

It’s easy and just a matter of putting forth an intentional effort to “date”.

If you need a little help, contact us [email protected] We are always keen to help. No Strings attached.

 

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How is Dating Going for You ?

Stop worrying.  Stop panicking.  Nothing good can come out of the expecting the worst.

The way you are feeling, lost and alone, its normal. All singles go thru it.

Thank yourself for how far you have come- it hasn’t been easy.

If you’re not having the best experience and are open to creative possibilities and solutions today, I’d love to support you in your dating journey.

Contact me [email protected]  No Strings attached.

 

 

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Do you get stuck in a negative DATING thought loop- that you can’t get out?

The media & TV, you see, contributes to the failure of many relationship expectations around the world.  Glamorizing and magnifying fairy tales that cause us – women especially- to have unrealistic expectations about how successful romantic relationships are found and maintained and when you think dating becomes a challenging situation it becomes pervasive in your life.

Sometimes the impact is so great that it has virtually obliterated thoughts around dating creating worst case scenarios leaving singles exhausted and sabotaging their own relationship goals that you can’t get out.  How whacked is that?

Fortunately, there are several methods to stop this trouble-making pattern of thought – which over the last 20 years, I got to share with many of my matchmaking clients.  Getting back to traditional ways involving two people who are actually suitable for each other (imagine that) and who, with a little help from extended support often build a successful relationship…..over time.

Let’s be honest, not everyone is prepared for the full matchmaking experience and that’s okay —knowing a thing or two about what works and just having someone there to help can make all the difference.

Email me [email protected]   for a complimentary call and I can tell you more about my new offer, Matchmaker on Demand.

 

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Matchmaker Seeking ; an active, athletic 55+ Gent

To all the single men, I am honestly giving you a chance to meet one of our best Bachelorettes in an exclusive way, and at no cost to you.

Stop dreaming and start dating – she is ready to meet you and she is quite the catch!

She’s an attractive, slim, and established semi retired BC woman living in the Whistler area who loves to laugh over a shared joke or friendly teasing. Her closet, like her interests, is diverse.  Her ski pants are next to her dress pants and her hiking boots are tucked in next to her heels. She’s a wine-lover, foodie, loves summer concerts, impromptu dancing, and handholding.  She prefers mountain views with the sun low on the horizon, seeks waterways on vacations, or simply lounging on her deck and she continues to travel and seek out new adventures.

If you are an athletic, fit gent with an easygoing vibe, 55+ and is more about spending quality time together, then she is looking forward to meeting you.

 

Forward a short description of yourself and current photo to [email protected] and we will contact you for a personal confidential interview.

 

As seen in Pique Magazine – Whistler, BC- Thursday July 1, 2021

 

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Dating Advice for Single Dads

One of the biggest things I work with Single Dads on when I’m matchmaking is that if you want to meet a 100 percent woman, you need to be a 100 per cent man.  Developing positive, healthy relationships with others only comes when you can develop a positive, healthy relationship with yourself.

However, truth be known about dating single dads;

  • You are some of the most loving, compassionate, and fun guys to date with no energy for drama knowing that every moment you spend with someone is time away from your kids.
  • You are a man who does not run from responsibility, and isn’t afraid of the words “love, marriage and family”.
  • Your badge is of a man who knows the mystery of the amazing boo–boo kiss, who spent a whole summer in a blanket fort, is a constant true role model and hero to his kids knowing life is filled with endless possibilities and that real love does exist!

But I know you can and will, find the right woman for you the moment you actually decide to commit to finding her.  SHE is out there right now waiting for you (perhaps going on dates with rather disappointing results) and SHE is relying on you to go out and find her.

Commit, believe, and get your woman, its Fathers Day!

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