Out sourcing your love life is becoming more and more mainstream. A lot of people now resort to find potential dates online or hire a matchmaker and have someone do all the groundwork in finding a partner for them.
But, how is online dating any different than matchmaking? Both may seem fairly similar methods of meeting “the one”, there is actually a huge difference between the two. In online dating you do all the work, are directly involved in profiling yourself and finding a potential partner. Great if you have lots of time on your hands and are into a numbers game. On the other hand, a professional dating expert with experience, and expertise in bringing two people compatible for each other gets down to the nitty gritty of your specifics. Although both dating systems aim to pair people up, online dating is often less specific in matching thereby making it less effective compared to matchmaking.
In online dating, you get to meet people with similar interests and hobbies but they may not necessarily be compatible in other areas of their lives and you also have the freedom to review thousands of profiles—the volume of potential dates seems endless! In the real world, this notion is quite next to impossible. The downside of having too many choices leads to fatigue and exhaustion. Sounding all too familiar?
In matchmaking, you are paired with carefully reviewed potential dates. Any experienced matchmaker can reduce the volume of potential dates, focus purely on quality and zero in on someone who has the highest potential that is genuinely looking for a partner. The matchmaking process has gotten scientific as it can get—making it more accurate, proven to have better results than online dating. The use of a consistent method coupled with scientific and psychological basis increases the chance of a fruitful union between two individuals.
Matchmaking, simply put, helps you get in the door but it’s up to you how to stay there once you’ve made it— helping you meet the right person, but it’s completely up to you to make your relationship work.
This editorial prepared by Jane Carstens
As seen in the 50 Plus Living section of the Comox Valley Record , Vancouver Island http://www.comoxvalleyrecord.com