Most of the singles I meet have had their fair share of down-and-out dating moments. Dates that end with a follow up text detailing all of your first date faux pas, the list goes on (and on). So , I have a lot of empathy for all you dating warriors, who keep putting yourselves out there, trying to figure out what the other side wants, striving to be open to, and have enthusiasm for…… I don’t know, falling in LOVE.
All these things start to make me think that perhaps we’ve lost an important virtue on our way to finding a relationship; HUMILITY.
I’m not talking about letting every bad date be proof of what’s wrong with you or your expectations, but humility is acknowledging that maybe we could do a better job of not being so hung up on ourselves and our non negotiables, and that we can acknowledge these faults and start getting out of our own way on the path to finding a partner. Sure, we all deserve our own meet-cute, charming moments, that we can forget that we’re all flawed. That’s the part that makes up beautiful and interesting. And it’s also part of what makes us annoying.
Truth be known, once you take a moment to swallow your pride, you might find how you learn to reconsider your habits in dating—its empowering– and therapeutic in a world where so much nonsense dating behavior is out of your hands.