Like all people, we are deserving of love and connection. Here are a couple things to keep in mind for anyone wanting to avoid the so-called, real life “Tinder Swindler” while navigating the world in today’s dating.
Experiences have taught me that practiced too early on (before trust and a foundation have been established), excessive written contact between a potential partner can fuel the engine of fantasy relationships. We often fill in the missing spaces and unknowns with our own details. This can lead to feeling letdown when the in-person counterpart fails to match up to whatever idealized version our mind has concocted. For instance, in writing and on the phone, maybe you bonded over what you thought was a shared passion for dogs. But then, in person, it becomes apparent that their interest is only passing and half-hearted and that they only volunteered at a shelter once.
It’s human nature to be more likely to think the best about someone and mold them into who we want them to be rather than see them for who they really are. Do yourself a favour and know that it’s basically a fantasy story that can only backfire for us down the road.