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While virtual “meetings” are the norm these days, completely replacing physical meetings during one’s search for a partner, is NOT.  Sure, online dating has been the in-thing over the last decade, finding soulmates this way has proven it is not such a safe-haven.

At the onset of Covid, we seen a spike of calls go up with local singles looking for help to meet local singles for face-to-face meetings.  And today, the trend has continued even with the changing restrictions, as singles are relatively more relaxed and want to go back to a world where face-to-face dating was common.

Its interesting to see the newfound appreciation expressed with so many singles for wanting to meet someone local and close to home, albeit with requisite precautions.

If you are looking for love with someone who has the qualities you value, look no further.  We are experienced professionals that will give you a leg up with a client database with over 2 decades of knowing your area.

I am about to celebrate a birthday.  Which one, I will not tell, but I don’t feel any older, other than just another day where I have to remember to change the digit when people ask how old I am.  But enough about my birthday!

Birthdays are like your own personal national holiday; the one day a year when you’ve gathered the most important people in your life and they celebrate in your honor, and pretty much let you do whatever you want. With today’s restrictions where family is far away, and friends feel distant it makes you feel damn alone and as single as ever.

So, if you think that spending your birthday single is terrifying, here’s a few reasons exactly why you have to do it.

  • You don’t have to stress, it’s the single most selfish day of the year.
  • You’re free to stop and appreciate all the little things you come across on your solo adventure.
  • And being alone leaves you with no option other than to be brave; it will remind you of how naturally it is to be social (no social media) and talk to more people, socially distanced and you never know who you might meet that will turn your birthday from a status of single to taken.

There is no secret to finding the right partner (we do it everyday). In fact, singles have been eager to get back out there just 6 weeks into lockdown and we have had many relationships bloom despite restrictions, in mindful socially distanced ways.  It’s a new chapter you should enter with as much positivity, persistence, patience and clarity as you can.

Happy Birthday!

With so many people working from home, 2020 was not the most social year.  A lot of us got accustomed to dating via zoom meetings, others, craving an opportunity to get out and meet someone new doing patio drinks, or socially distance walks. 

In Canada, there has been caveats and province to province there has been snags.   East of Alberta has mostly been closed to all drink/dining out with second lockdowns in less than a year, but the West Coast was open with protocols and it has affected the way we access meeting other singles.  As a matchmaker for almost 2 decades, it has felt like a weird time because everything has happened, and nothing has happened, but it feels like we are finally moving in the right direction and can see the light at the end of the tunnel. 

This past year, we have seen the dating landscape shift in unexpected ways to all new approaches to relationships and we predict that more changes are coming.  A lot of the daters I speak to have a dating-related resolution for 2021, which include taking things slower and raising the bar when it comes to vetting matches.  Over the past year, most feel the pandemic has given them an abundance of time to focus on themselves, having more confidence to say what is, and is not right for them in their dating life. It has made singles think that having a sound communication and compatibility in a relationship is much more important than just intimacy.  And singles seeking long-term or serious relationships are willing to give multiple chances to the same person that they are dating and that they will stop using dating apps if they get serious. 

Our bachelor understands this theory the way we do. Hoping and wishing, no matter the year, are not enough to find a new relationship, or better still find love. In our experience, finding your soul mate requires a different, far more soul-enriching approach that can only enhance the outcome. We search from our record of eager single women who would quite like a boyfriend, along with assiduously recruiting as part of his visionary plan. 

So, to all the single ladies I am honestly giving you a chance to meet one of my best Bachelors—in an exclusive way, and at no cost to you. 

He is ready to put himself out there and he’s quite the catch! He is in his late 40’s, 6’1” and a good-looking, athletic guy who is caring, giving, smart, sincere and unique. He enjoys living a healthy lifestyle balanced with showing off his culinary skills, spoiling his “niblings” doing the uncle thing, summer and winter Whistler trips and travel.  He hopes to find his special woman soon so contact us at [email protected] to learn more for yourself or pass it on to you best girlfriends.

This years’ festive season will be unlike any we’ve seen before, but that’s not a bad thing.  

My optimism for all things Christmas and being single could be attributed to decades of working within matchmaking and working harder in December than we do at any other time of the year and this year is no exception. 

Let’s face it, with all the apps on the market, there are more ways to meet someone today than ever.  One of the best ways though, might be the one that has not changed much for centuries, Matchmaking.  Since the pandemic hit in March, we have been inspired by the plight of people looking for real connections, and have welcomed new clients of all ages – starting with a socially distance meeting, and lasts for around an hour, during which we get to know each other as we would a friend. We have found people are not as shy or as reticent to express their feelings of loneliness and we think that’s so healthy and matchmaking is a natural way to address that.  We have never been more honored to help people when they come in—it shows they are really taking charge of their life. 

Could not be a more perfect time to make LOVE happen!

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Halloween has been always an important holiday for singles looking to meet new people in a more casual setting and this year is no different.  Other than the virtual and socially distanced festivities and platforms required to safely partake in its festivities, it is important to pinpoint what works and what does not to make the search for love as effective as possible.  

  • Choosing a costume, right down to the details give a very clear first impression.  Pick something that reflects your interests, your date will begin to get a sense of who you are, right away. If your stuck go with eye catching funny!
  • Planning a seasonal date is very romantic, even if its spooky season.  Do some research for an outdoor, socially distanced, and perfectly themed safe Halloween date.
  • Skip the candy and savour sweet moments; throw a virtual Halloween Party.  If you cannot spend it in-person, get a group of friends and your potential new crush for a virtual gathering, costumes mandatory and see how your date fits in with your core group.

To join Matchmaker for Hire’s extensive, international network of singles and find that special someone ahead of the spookiest day of the year, please visit www.matchmakerforhire.com or email [email protected]

This weekend is Thanksgiving in Canada and if you are single you know the usual risks that the obnoxious questions about why you’re still single are coming.  Even though thru a pandemic you might get a reprieve, however if not, I am not saying it won’t sting a little bit.  It’s a lot harder if you “want” to have a true partner in your life and you don’t have one currently. 

If you’re single and looking, here’s a few things to know. 

Ground yourself in knowing that there are many people, like you who “want” a relationship and they are not letting a pandemic get in the way.  In some ways its different and in some ways its not.  As a Matchmaker, working with singles for almost 2 decades, I can speak with experience and direct commentary on dating today. We are all about connections and are setting up our clients on face-to-face dates, while remaining dedicated the health and safety of our clients.  We are also hearing from our clients that there are higher quality chats that are leading to 2nd and 3rd dates. 

Don’t forget –It will take more than a pandemic to keep us from finding Love!

As if all the self doubt on a 1st date was not enough.  Here are a few quotes that will lead you to where you want to be in finding a partner, all the time telling you to take that leap of faith.  Don’t care or try to think about what they want, worry about yourself today.

“There is only one way to avoid criticism: do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing.” ― Aristotle

“Most people are other people. Their thoughts are someone else’s opinions, their lives a mimicry, their passions a quotation.”— Oscar Wilde

“You probably wouldn’t worry about what people think of you if you could know how seldom they do.” ― Olin Miller

“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.”— Dr. Seuss

“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will. “― Suzy Kassem

“Some people say you are going the wrong way, when it’s simply a way of your own.”— Angelina Jolie

Are you looking for LOVE in all the right places — Victoria?

I hear it everyday, where are all the singles?  Well listen up YYJ, Victoria Singles do exist—and they are not hard to find. I think we can all agree that, we are more than ready for a fresh start and have something fun to look forward to in the year ahead. 

If you have decided to leave it to luck alone — I decided to turn to the science of it and research some Stats Canada and our own data to find the highest concentrations of single women in Victoria. 

The highest concentration overall is in North Park, Harris Green and Downtown.  Surprising?  Well that is also true for much of South Jubilee, Vic West and Burnside areas. But take a drive out to rural Langford, the odds of finding a single woman much lower.  There, less that two out of ten women are single.

Look at our #locallove beauty featured in Victoria Times Colonist August 7&9, 2020 — Sometimes a guy needs a little help!

Looking for love…… Duh.

Looking for a partner…… Absolutely.

In essence: Dating is life. Parenting is life. Stop making such a big deal out of the former, and the latter becomes far less complicated.

Who would not want their kids to see resilience, and for the single parent it means loving again and not just coping?  Which brings us to the big question of when.  Most of the singles we work with say that the kids do have to be in the mix to see if the relationship is going to work.  For some, who did not want anything too serious they bring their kids around their new potentials as a deterrent – and then watch in awe as they threw themselves in the mix with them.  Instead of sabotaging the relationship with their kids, they just sweetened the deal……something worth exploring.   

One thing we feel strongly about is people who (and if this is you, sorry) say, “Oh we’ll just tell the kids we’re friends hanging out”.  Do not lie, kids know everything.

Our Take, when you are ready, bring around your family. Sure, consider how you do this post Covid, respect your kids’ reactions, talk about it with them.  But do not feel guilty, you are normal, and this is healthy.  That said, there are plenty of good reasons to take your time introducing your kids to your new amore.  Maybe you don’t ever introduce them at all.