For a lot of people, finding love is a exasperating, elusive process. For us Matchmakers, its just another day in the office. Here’s some of the most important things we’ve learned about finding love and making it last;
- A question that most people unintentionally ignore is: Do I personally live up to the expectations that I have for someone else? And often the answer is no. It is easy to come up with a list of ‘must-haves’ in a partner, but it is a lot harder to turn that list around and judge yourself. If you are not passionate about your life, how are you going to attract someone who is? If you are not living your life true to your values, how are you going to attract someone who does?
- When a client tells us his or her physical ‘musts,’ we like to use the analogy of friends. Think about your three closest friends. They probably all look extremely different, but they all have qualities in common that you choose to surround yourself with — humor, intellect, empathy, altruism, honesty — whatever it is that you enjoy. When you’re searching for a romantic partner, think about searching for those qualities you enjoy — not just blonde hair or guys taller than 6 feet. Look at a person’s soul. If you like it, hold onto it.
- We have an idea of the right age and time to get married. However just because you have been dating someone for a few years, and you are 31 years old, does not mean that you need to get married. Trust your gut. If you are not ready to get married, don’t. We meet people every day who have gone through nasty divorces, if it doesn’t feel right, it’s not right.
- The hardest part of dating, by far, is finding the someone you truly connect with. So if you do find that kind of person, don’t let him or her go -be loving enough to work on a solution- even when the going gets rough.