Are they a good time for you? If you think about it, the First First date was Adam and Eve. They settled on apple picking as an activity, had a serpent as a chaperone and the rest is history.
Today the all-important first date isn’t easy for most. Between the pressure of who’s going to pay, how to keep the conversation going and how might it end, there are so many moving pieces which for some can make it a less than appealing way to spend an evening. And yet traditional dates are held up as a romantic ideal, and a must do if you want to meet someone.
Here are some ways our idea of a “date” has dramatically varied over the years;
Pre-19th century: Who needs dating when your matchmaking parents can set you up?
Early 1900s: A date involves a “gentleman caller” and is definitely chaperoned
1920s: Dating is about going out and playing the field.
1940s and 1950s: Dating is about procuring a husband ASAP.
1960s and 1970s: A date is really about sex.
1990s: Dating isn’t actually dating, it’s “hooking up.”
So, what does this mean for the picture-perfect first date today? Given how fast things change (it was only a few years ago swiping right wasn’t a term we even knew), trying to get a “first date” right isn’t worth getting stressed over.
For our clients formal dates do still happen, but there’s a ton of in between that comes from us that by the time the “first date” happens you’ve already gotten to know so much about the other person that the initial first face-to-face is exceedingly casual or already has an air or familiarity.
Fact; 48% of all singles are using Facebook to do their own adept stalking before a date — WE actually have the first date by meeting them.
Now, it’s all up to you.
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