When I think of Valentine’s Day, (a day for love and togetherness if you are in love), I can’t help but think at the same time that it can be a very trying time for those of us who are Solohood and hate the pressure of Valentine’s Day but love the thought of romance.
There is widespread assumption that single people are lonely, but it turns out anyone can be lonely, and anyone that is alone , isn’t necessarily lonely. According to recent studies over half of the population (54% being single) now say they always or sometimes feel alone, and one in five say they rarely feel close to anyone. So based on this, to be lonely you don’t have to be alone – it’s about the quality of your connections with people, and whether they genuinely relate to you.
Shockingly, most clients we speak to say that the loneliest they have felt is when they were with someone, but were still lonely. The UK government has actually developed a Minister for Loneliness , whose purpose is trying to figure out why Brits are lonely and what interventions can smooth that out…….sounds like a lonely job to me!
Studies also say that the ever-present online activity, single or not, is the main reason why most people feel lonely. If you’re single, the more time (can be years for some) you spend swiping left or right, is counterproductive in the dating world.
Sure, we need vitamins, clean air and connection for our personal well being. However, if you are Single, take some time to notice how much you need actual connection! You might find you are not lonely, you’re just alone.
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