There is just something about a long weekend that makes us all feel so much more relaxed than a regular weekend. The weather can be awful, or you might not be feeling great, it doesn’t matter because you got that long weekend feeling. But if you are single it can feel like an emotional wilderness where interactions are minimal, and you are at odds with one’s capable weekday self.
To counter this, it’s about keep going and look at all the positives. This guy is never in the dumps because he doesn’t have a partner. He would just love to meet someone who’s active and outdoorsy, and actually interested in him.
He’s an amazing single Dad, in his 40’s, navigating his world running a prominent business in BC and saving time this long weekend for more fun things like hiking , cycling, fishing and is an authentic esteemed chef securing his first ever of the season spot prawns. He is spontaneous, loves travel – so he’s hired us while he enjoys his long weekend.
If you are open to meeting a really amazing guy and you are in your 30’s message us to learn more and a chance to meet him, face to face, or pass it on to your best girlfriends, no cost to you.
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Like all people, we are deserving of love and connection. Here are a couple things to keep in mind for anyone wanting to avoid the so-called, real life “Tinder Swindler” while navigating the world in today’s dating.
Experiences have taught me that practiced too early on (before trust and a foundation have been established), excessive written contact between a potential partner can fuel the engine of fantasy relationships. We often fill in the missing spaces and unknowns with our own details. This can lead to feeling letdown when the in-person counterpart fails to match up to whatever idealized version our mind has concocted. For instance, in writing and on the phone, maybe you bonded over what you thought was a shared passion for dogs. But then, in person, it becomes apparent that their interest is only passing and half-hearted and that they only volunteered at a shelter once.
It’s human nature to be more likely to think the best about someone and mold them into who we want them to be rather than see them for who they really are. Do yourself a favour and know that it’s basically a fantasy story that can only backfire for us down the road.
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Born and raised a Toronto girl with nothing more than passion, a computer, a love for the West Coast, and for the last 20 years I have remained insatiably curious about human connections.
What makes singles genuinely happy, successful, and fulfilled while searching for the one? It is possible to dream big without running yourself into the ground, while still remaining optimistic, open, and stress-free.
Here’s the good news; I’ve learned from personal experience (and by interviewing some great successful singles), that you can accomplish meeting the one—without burning out. As long as you cultivate the right habits and plan of action.
Everyone’s plan will look a little bit different, but there are some things that should definitely be included;
First and foremost, if you are serious (or even potentially serious) about finding the one is to have a clear head and an open heart.
I will not rush it. It is so important to take your time in letting a connection develop and so worth it in the end. Taking things slowly can not only help you avoid mistakes, but it can also vastly improve your dating skills. There is no substitute for short-cuts.
Seek wise counsel. Even if you are approaching dating with an open heart and committed to taking things slowly, you need to hear from people who know you well and who don’t get goosebumps when they hold your dates hand.
Well, there you have it; however, this is by no means an exhaustive list. If you’d like to find a mentor to talk to about these kinds of things and don’t have one, consider reaching out to me. It would be my honor to support you and cheer you on.
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It’s an everyday occurrence that we come across a great Single that’s too good not to share!
You might be thinking…. dating ?!?!? Yet you have likely recognized in your clearest moments that there is a greater possibility for finding love, despite your best efforts. And, like so many of the singles I speak to simply struggle with trying to solve it on their own with no results. But don’t worry. There is no secret, we only introduce you to great people and we do it everyday for our clients.
This is where this great client living in Victoria BC, comes in. We have been working with her hand-in-hand and know she is truly a gem. She is a slim, blue-eyed blonde with a combination of good looks, enthusiasm, and is truly an amazing woman. She exudes a fun demeanor and romantic playfulness; is a wine-lover, foodie, loves live music, handholding and living a balanced, relaxed, healthy life. Her workout clothes are next to her little black dress, and her boots are next to her heels and retired early she makes her home in both Alberta with more time living in Victoria. She’s a history buff, sees personal investment management as a hobby, and is a strong believer in giving back to her communities.
If you are an active, fit, 60+ gent with an easy laid-back vibe who is more about spending time together enjoying the variety of what a VICTORIA lifestyle has to offer, sharing adventure, travel, and lively conversations; we can’t imagine your life without her in it.
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Even if you’re pretty sure you’re hitting it off with someone, the signs of a good first date aren’t always easy to recognize, but it’s a safe bet if you both add extra time to your parking meter 😊
While most people probably define a “good date” as one that
leads to more dates down the line, that’s not the only or best way to look at
it. What we like to tell our clients is
that it’s totally ok if it doesn’t lead to a second. Don’t get me wrong it can be disappointing if
a first date doesn’t turn into a second, but having a good first date is a self-confidence
booster. It can remind you that it’s
fine to go out and have fun with someone interesting, rather than staying home
staring at your phone. They can’t all
lead to love, but that doesn’t mean they can’t be good fun!
If you are finding more often than not, a date with the same
person doesn’t go past one or two dates, it’s time to manage your expectations
and cast a wider net. Here are some tips
to having more fun on first dates;
Instead of auditioning to
be partner material, you should just go, have fun and bring the best and
happiest version of you to the table.
Don’t take anything personally, and you shouldn’t let one bad
date sour your views towards dating.
Don’t get trapped in the
job interview date, they are awkward and high stress.
Try to plan a date that is active in some way –
good dates are always interactive.
Take comfort in the idea
that everyone is uncomfortable, and
that is a learning experience. The more you grow, the better a dater you will
be. The better a dater you are, the better the fit will be when you do land the
Me? I’m an optimist- from the unique moments of my clients connecting.
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For those of us less fortunate enough not to be in a relationship, the coming of Christmas can present a challenge. Let’s be honest; whether you care about your single status or not listening to relatives probing about our dating life can be draining, as can finding a home for the mountain of small amusing gifts coming your way. For example, being in receipt of wall art or badass affirmations books and you immediately file it under a mental tab marked: Single at Christmas, again – sorted.
But there is a solution; And it’s simple –Give a gift of something to someone who needs it– Choose Love.
So, don’t shut out the idea of helping someone find love –give them a real present of love. This week, we have had several calls from people who realize that waiting patiently to let love find you does not have to be the case and this Christmas we are helping caring friends and family buy loved ones appropriate and indulgent matchmaking membership gifts, the thing that someone single actually needs; to go from single to taken!
Presents for single people truly in need; a solution to your Christmas shopping- It’s what we do.
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We are in that small window of opportunity where it’s still semi-acceptable to break up with someone before we get into the Holidays, but the window is quickly closing. You don’t want to be that person breaking up with someone before Christmas. Before you read this, I want you to think about the last time you were dumped or broke up with someone. I feel like 9 out of 10 times; there are some pretty visible signs that a split is coming. Maybe we see them and choose to ignore them, or perhaps we’re oblivious.
I found many articles on the signs your partner is about to leave you, but I think that there are a lot two pretty definitive ones. For most when they are about to end a relationship, they start changing or improving their physical appearance, or posts start disappearing like a bad habit on their social media accounts.
Dah! You should have seen that last break up coming a mile away. And if you’re in a relationship and you’re suddenly doing these things, perhaps it’s time to take a long, hard look at if this relationship is working for you. If you’re the one planning to do the dumping and you’re struggling with how to do it, you can always do it with ice cream. According to Vancouver based Nora’s Non-Dairy, “It’s a sweet but savage way to drop someone!”
Surprisingly forget Valentine’s Day, Halloween is the real festival of LOVE and according to psychologists they say that more people will hook up this weekend than on February 14th.
Why? Its all down to the science of fear and there is fairly good evidence that feeling afraid can trigger the same emotions as sexual arousal. It’s a good idea to take a date to a horror movie as its acceptable to snuggle into a prospective partner shielding your eyes and that feeling afraid heightens the senses and increases attractiveness and attraction. No wonder so many holidaymakers fall for their ski-instructors or mountain guides as its impossible to separate feelings of sexual attraction from feelings of fear. A hunky Whistler snow moose ready to help you down that scary black run, will make it so much the better.
I’m always telling my clients its important to do something that scares you every day to grow and feel fulfilled especially when it comes to dating. But this—well it’s likely to help your love life too.
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We have all heard the stories. First dates costing more than $2000 after spending months of online back and forth messaging, hours of late-night phone calls, and then finally booking a flight and deciding to meet. Such long-distance romances use to grow out of fateful encounters on holidays, or perhaps far-flung business meetings but today a growing number of cross-border courtships, some owed to an instant message across time zones, is becoming not about what to wear on your date— it’s what to pack!
Statistics show that 52% of Canadian on-line daters have e-mailed someone out of country in the past 30 days. I have also seen a spike in Matchmaking clients open to long-distance dating; after starting out searching within five miles of their postal code and as they get more comfortable they stop limiting themselves so much and more open to step outside the “border”.
This city’s only so big, and when the girl next door is no longer next door, its nice to open up the possibilities for my clients by working with other accredited “Cupids” from other cities. This summer I’ve relied on connections with fellow cupids from Seattle, San Fran, San Diego, New York, London UK and of course continue working with my fellow Canadian ones all the way east to Toronto with some great success.
That’s certainly the case for our affiliate Matchmaker friend Ali Migliore of Simply Matchmaking in Seattle. “There is definitely an infinite number of single people here open to dates from other cities and this summer, I knew I had to connect with Jane about an amazing client I had in Seattle who was open to expanding her search to the Vancouver area. By us both knowing our clients so well, we were able to come up with a great match and our clients met and both said it was the best match yet! Looking forward to dozens of more potential romances happening with the help of our cross-border cupids at Matchmaker for Hire.”
Of course, expectations are always heightened when a plane fare is actually involved and its easy to feel cheated if the romance doesn’t work out (this kind of dating isn’t for the faint of wallet) – plus there’s added pressure if it does. But for some, however the distance is a bonus and that not being around someone all the time can be ok if you are just as busy as they are.
So, if your tolerance to being uprooted is increased, let your Matchmaker know.