Testimonial: “You sure know me. I can only imagine the demands in matching algorithms…… You must be the Einstein of Love.” He said smiling. That’s what one of our clients recently had to say.
Is there a formula for successful relationships? You bet! The five-to-one ratio of positive-to-negative emotions suggests there is and the difference in having found “the one” as apposed to “someone” can be:
- You are so enamored at the beginning that you want to keep conversing forever
- You find someone who meets 90% of your criteria (having defined this well up front and relating to what you have in common rather than having more positive “opposite” traits).
- There is a magnetism after the first couple of dates…. coming from both head and heart and not merely lust, though the physical attraction is also there.
Once established well over months where it keeps existing—this magnetism blossoms to where you can’t live without the other person. Resist the desire for any next steps until 4 seasons have gone by, and you have experienced visitations with her/his friends and family, seen his/her reactions to a large variety of events such as changes in political climate, religious experiences, movies and intellectual pursuits, passions of many kinds, discussions on health, patterns of living, rural or urban style, future plans, desire for travel, views on children, volunteering, helping others—all topics you can bring up…and many more that give a broader perspective about the person. Satisfy your need to know these things to avoid big future controversies.
Matchmaker vs. Cupid: Which one do you choose when it comes to finding love? Would you rather get a visit from the messenger of love or a Matchmaker superhero who can save you from a dating disaster?
HAPPY VALENTINES DAY!